A Place to Land While You Wait-Trusting God During Mother–Child Estrangement

Statistics show that estrangement between adult children and mothers lasts an average of 2–5 years. And I know personally that many mothers experience far longer seasons than that.

That’s a long time to wait.

We place so much hope and so much weight on the moment of reconciliation. But I wonder what might shift within us if we placed that same hope and energy into learning to trust the Lord in the in-between?

Reconciliation may or may not come but God is still present, still near, and still at work in you now.

So I’ll ask you boldly…
What are you going to do while you wait?

Will you stay in the hurt?
Stay in the rawness?
Stay unhealed — where anger and resentment quietly brew?

Friend, can I share something with you?

When I felt the Lord nudging me to share my story about estrangement, I sensed Him asking me to talk about prayer about drawing near to Him in heartbreak. But I’ll be honest… I’ve gotten distracted by the noise surrounding estrangement. Being misunderstood is exhausting. And sometimes I’ve wondered, Lord, am I worthy enough to speak to these hurting women about prayer?

I’ll admit this too, I am not a fan of the “just pray more” Christian response. Because in the moment, that can feel dismissive. Like the pain hasn’t been acknowledged. Like someone doesn’t know what to say, so they reach for the safest phrase.

So when I encourage you to pray, please hear my heart.

I’m not saying, “Oh, just go pray” as a checkbox response.

I’m saying:
Sister..  In your waiting season… go sit at the feet of Jesus.
Soak in His presence.
Bear your soul to Him.

Tell Him the truth:
“Lord, I’m angry.”
“I can’t breathe through this pain.”

Prayer comes in more forms than closed eyes and folded hands.
Prayer can look like singing… screaming… journaling… reading… sitting in silence.
It can sound like talking to God the way you would a trusted friend.

Because He desires relationship, not a task on your to-do list.

And if this doesn’t come naturally at first… that’s normal.
Nothing new feels natural in the beginning.
So don’t give up. Stay consistent.

My encouragement to you is this:
Don’t let estrangement only be a place of loss.

Let it also be the place where you draw near to the Lord — where He meets you and makes something new in you.

Most of you are here because you downloaded my free devotional. If you haven’t yet, you can find it here:
👉 [Free Devotional Link]

If you’ve already completed the free devotional and thought, I need something more for this season, I created a prayer workbook with you in mind.

This isn’t about trying harder or praying the “right” way. It’s about having a place to pour out what you’re carrying.. the grief, the unanswered questions, the hope that feels fragile, and the faith you’re still choosing to cling to.

It’s a companion for the long wait, designed to help you draw near to the Lord without rushing the outcome.

The workbook is available as a 👉physical copy on Amazon or a digital version you can download instantly, and the digital version includes two months of free access to our online community — a safe, off-social-media space where other mothers understand this road and will pray with you.

And lastly, if you’re longing for a place to walk this journey with others — we have an 👉online community off social media. A space free from constant reminders, old memories, and curated happy families. We share devotionals, Scripture, worship music, and prayer. We support one another gently and honestly.

You don’t need more noise… you need a place to land while you wait.